It was trial day for the baby girl we had been fostering for nearly a year up to that point – the day the court would rule on who would retain parental rights over her forever.
But it was more than just a legal proceeding that day; it was a spiritual one.
THE TENSION OF THE UNSEEN
What was taking place in the courtroom, just like in many other courtrooms everyday all around the country, was more unseen than the negligent actions of birth parents, the hustle of lawyers and case workers and the proceedings of an overrun and under resourced legal system. It was by nature unseen – an attempt of the Enemy to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10) this innocent child’s life, and to perpetuate the systemic brokenness of past generations into hers. She was too young to be aware of the fact this was one of the most important days of her life, which all the more demanded someone be there to stand where she could not stand for herself and speak when she could not speak on her own behalf.
I assumed we would be silent spectators that day; the lawyers would do what they need to do and later inform us of what we needed to do. Yet, as the room seemingly fell silent, I was unexpectedly called to testify before the court - there I now stood, only a few feet from this little girl's biological father who had just endured a brutal recounting of why he is incapable of caring for a child.
No longer a silent spectator; I was now an active participant. After a series of questions from the judge, his final and most significant one seemed to linger longer than the others: Do you believe it's in the best interest of this child for parental rights to be terminated, and if so, is it your intent to adopt her? A question I'll never forget being asked, and an answer I'll always be both honored and heart-broken to have to give: Yes, your honor, I do, and it is our intent to adopt her if that is in her best interest.
I knew then that none of this should be happening - I could feel it in the room. He should be taking care of his own daughter. She should be with him. But now here I am, with such great privilege and joy gaining the rights over a precious little girl while a broken man stands beside me having just lost his. While the beauty of justice has prevailed, it did so only upon the backdrop of brokenness, loss and sadness. This is not how it's supposed to be. Nothing in foster care really is.
You could feel it in the air – the tension of the unseen battle was thick.
Foster care is spiritual warfare.
JESUS AND THE JUDGE
It was in that moment I sensed with vivid clarity a picture of what it meant for Jesus to stand before God on my behalf. To speak when I could not speak for myself. To stand where I could not stand on my own. I could imagine the heavenly scenario playing out at the point of my salvation - being ushered before God the Judge with my brokenness laid bare before Him. Jesus stepping in to testify, answering the single most important question that would ultimately determine my fate forever: Jesus, do you believe it's in the best interest of Jason for the Enemy's rights to be terminated in his life? And without hesitation Jesus responds: Yes, and I accept full responsibility for him from here on out.
On some level, this is what the scriptures mean when they refer to Jesus as our "advocate" and our "mediator". He stood for us when we could not stand on our own. He spoke on our behalf when we had no words worthy to speak. The battle has been fought for us. Jesus has won. The Enemy no longer retains His manipulative, deceiving and destructive rights over us. We have been forever adopted into the family of God because of the work of Jesus on our behalf.
This is the gospel.
It’s this gospel that calls and compels us to stand for these kids exactly where Jesus has stood for us in it - to physically do for them what He has spiritually done for us. It pulls us into the fight and prompts us to point to Him as the Hero in all of this.
THE REAL ENEMY
Although certainly not innocent bystanders in all of this, the real enemy we stand against in foster care is not biological parents or a broken system – it is Satan who seeks to steal and kill and destroy the most vulnerable and defenseless.
While these kids’ situations often times demand an extreme and just intervention, the enemy we fight against is not birth parents or broken systems, but in the grand unseen spiritual world of things, it’s Satan. This is the essence of what Paul means in Ephesians 6:12 when he says, "...we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places."
Spiritual warfare defined.
This is what makes it entirely possible for us to be against the destructive actions of biological parents but still for the redemptive pursuit of their souls - to be against what they've done but still for them. We are for them. They are not the Enemy - they are humans. Broken humans in need of redemption - just like you and me.
THE TRUE HERO
In the grand, unseen spiritual battle raging around us, Satan is the ultimate Enemy and Jesus is the True Hero - not us. What an incredible truth for those entrenched in the battle of foster care to be reminded of - Jesus is the Hero.
With Jesus as the Hero we are free from the need to bear the weight of redemption that only He was ever intended to carry. With Jesus as the Hero foster care is not simply a hopeless struggle but rather a vivid expression of a spiritual battle in which the victory of beauty will eventually triumph over the vices of brokenness. With Jesus as the Hero the struggles will be real for us but they do not have the power to defeat us; they will be heavy upon us but they do not have the power to break us; the Enemy will seek to destroy us but he will not have the power to prevail over us. This is the confidence upon which we intercede on behalf of these kids. This is the hope which steadies us even as the war rages on around us.
This is spiritual warfare. This is the gospel. This is foster care.
Foster Parents: Thank you for doing what you're doing on behalf of these kids. In stunningly beautiful ways you are putting the gospel on display with great vividness and clarity - standing for them where Jesus has stood for you and pointing to Him as the true Hero in all of this.
As the battle rages on know that God is not asking you to be or do anything only He was ever intended to be or do. He’s simply asking you to be faithful and to trust Him with the rest…
..because with Jesus as the Hero, we don't have to be.
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